Meet Shaun Williams, Counsellor and CEO of Bent Couch Counselling
Each month we spotlight an ACA member in the ACA Monthly Bulletin, our monthly newsletter. The Member Spotlight is designed to showcase the work of our members to you! We hope their stories inspire or spark interest. Let’s share our experiences within our counselling community.
What motivated you to pursue a career in counselling?
My journey into counselling began when I confronted personal challenges with my own mental health. After seeing a mental health therapist for a few years, finally in 2019 I came out as gay. This turning point in my personal life sparked a transformation in my professional career. In October 2020, I co-founded a support group for individuals who had similar life experiences. The group ‘Gay Fathers Worldwide’’ has expanded to welcome over 1,000 men globally. Through Gay Fathers Worldwide, I found purpose in actively listening to men in distress and providing peer support. I resigned from my position in the health system and commenced full-time study in counselling at the age of 50. In October 2022, I opened the doors of Bent Couch Counselling. Â
What specific areas do you primarily work within?
I primarily work in the LGBTQIA+ community and specialise in the counselling of gay and queer men. Therapies include working on issues such as shame, connection, burnout, sexual health, loneliness, and relationship difficulties.
Can you share a recent success or achievement in your counselling work that you are proud of?
My private practice, Bent Couch Counselling, has been in operation for two years. At the 2023 ACA conference, I had the privilege of presenting a paper on ‘The Importance of the Rainbow Connection and Male Resilience’, and I was also honoured to join a panel of speakers. I’ve had the opportunity of working with diverse clients from all over Australia. This also includes men in remote mining towns in Western Australia, Indigenous queer folk in the Northern Territory, and men in the prison system. Offering both face-to-face and online counselling ensures greater access to those in need.
What is the most rewarding aspect of being a counsellor for you?
I love witnessing my clients, particularly men, take ownership of their vulnerabilities, connect with their emotions, and engage with their challenges. Then seeing them turn their lives around and find that they have the ability within themselves for change, self-development, and growth.
How do you contribute to the betterment of the profession and your community?
I’ve created resources such as workbooks, articles, and blogs that are specifically designed for the LGBTQIA+ community. I like to think this work creates a positive profile profession while also assisting the community. These materials provide valuable tools for self-reflection, growth, and mental well-being. Secondly, my involvement in initiatives like Community Couch Conversations (a bimonthly online Zoom meet for the wider LGBTQIA+ community) creates safe, supportive spaces where individuals can connect, share experiences, and find support. I also served as the deputy chair of the LGBTQIA+ advisory committee at my local council, the City of Port Phillip, for 2 years. These efforts not only strengthen the community but also set a positive example of the profession.
Are there any projects or initiatives you are currently involved in?
I am currently working on an exciting project for 2025. This includes men’s retreats, workshops, and training programs, among some other wonderful initiatives for men’s mental health.
What advice would you give to someone considering a career in counselling/psychotherapy?
Pick a niche that has personally influenced or affected you. Learn everything about that niche, both the good and the not-so-good. Ask yourself if your niche is something that influences or impacts a significant proportion of the population. If the answer is yes and you are passionate about continuous learning in this niche, then I would suggest you may be a perfect fit for counselling and psychotherapy.
Is there a quote or philosophy that inspires your work?
“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”
From Carl Rogers. This is incredibly inspiring for me and my journey. When I finally accepted myself for who I am, then the real change began to happen in all areas of my life.
